Asexual Sexual Orientations 101

Sex Positive: I don’t feel sexual attraction but I do enjoy the physical sensation of sex. (Maybe even crave it!)

Sex Neutral: I can have sex but I don’t need it. To be honest I have no strong feelings about sex.

Sex Repulsed: I don’t like sex. I don’t want to have sex. I’m not going to have sex with you. I understand that people enjoy sex but I do not.

The presence of a labido does not invalidate any of these orientations. Dicks jokes and sexual humor do not invalidate these asexuals. These orientations are a SPECTRUM and are very fluid. Asexuals can and do exist in between theses definitions.

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How I love

When I was asked by someone I care very deeply about possibly moving on to find someone who can live their lifestyle more than I can, (Let’s be honest even its current state RSD limits me in a few ways. Long term my treatment isn’t a cure, it’s a repair to a scarred wound that the right movement will rip it back open. So I know life with me long term is not an easy challenge to face.) I could have had a hard question to answer.

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But in thinking of how I feel about him, about our situation, about his opportunity for happiness. This is all I could say.

I love you. I love my son’s dad. I love several of my ex’s. Love for me is not a matter of ownership. It’s a matter of standing by someone regardless of if they fall in love with someone else. Because real love doesn’t die, just changes into respect for that someone else’s happiness.

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I meant it. Love, life, it’s all gone in a moment if something goes horribly wrong. You can’t force someone to love you. Can’t force them to stay. Nor SHOULD YOU!

It’s like Mommy Fortuna and her home made shop of horrors. (Yes, I really referenced it.) You can trap an immortal, but once it gets lose, it will never forget. And if you try to run, you’ll attract its attention… And wrath.

Don’t force a creature you deem beautiful, to be what you see it to be. That’s why you noticed it in the first place. It was different and beautiful. If it’s love, it will come back. And if not, then you loved it enough to let it be what you loved.

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Another day in the life of being a girl on the internet.

Guys, a word of advice, THIS IS NOT HOW YOU START out talking to a woman on the net. That is unless you want to bag a desperate psycho who might actually believe you.

king: 1:52pm Jul 6 i love u

Me: 7:46pm Jul 6 LOL Wow that came out of no where.

king: 7:48pm Jul 6 a day with ou u is like a day with out sun shine

Me: 8:06pm Jul 6 That is pretty intense… Are you sure you have the right person?

king: 8:15pm Jul 6 i do some come seeee me

Me: 8:41pm Jul 6 I don’t know you. So I couldn’t even if I wanted to.

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